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If you have ended a relationship because your ex cheated on you, most often than not, a time will come when you will be tormented if you should still give that unfaithful ex of yours another chance in the game or not. It is not an easy decision, no matter how long it has been since you broke up, especially when you have thought that you have left the Gehenna that has shrouded you when you found out that you have been cheated on, thus now you return to that painful place. Take control of that merry-go-round of emotions and hesitations that you have before you make a decision to give your Ex a chance. Do that by asking your ex these questions.

Why do you want another chance and save our marriage? This is a big question. Don’t just settle for a simple, “let’s forget what happened and start again” line. Understand the reason why your ex wants to reconcile. Why have you been chosen over the paramour. Do you have to worry about the same infidelity in the future? How can your ex prove that this time around, it is for real? That your ex will stand to the promise of “’till death do us part?”

Are you sure you can resist the temptation to cheat should it rise again? This is another question you need to hear the answer to. More importantly, you need to get down to the heart of asking why things will be different this time around. What has changed that makes your ex so sure the temptation will be easily resisted this time around? It’s a logical question and your ex should expect it. Now is not the time to worry about sparing feelings. It’s about protecting your heart should you decide to give your relationship another chance.

Is there a Gordian knot in our marriage that compelled you to cheat? To cinch the reconciliation in good terms, you have to be aware as well of the real cause why your partner cheated. Could there be some habits of yours that your ex is not happy about? Does your ex feels unimportant and left out because you are the only one who makes the decision or you make your ex feel that he/she is not a part of the big picture? Figure this out and find ways to fix it. A relationship is about “give-and-take”, everything has a “cause-and-effect”. Give your ex what he/she wants and in return take his/her loyalty. Do not make any “cause” so there won’t be any bad “effect”. Running away from temptation is good but you still have to resolve the root of the problem. You have to do your share of work in keeping the marriage afloat. If your ex knows that temptation can be avoided then there is a big chance that it won’t happen again but it would be best if you do not give out a reason for your ex to cheat. If you know that there is something in you that needs to be changed then do it, if not then don’t expect a happy and lasting reconciliation.

Do you still love me? The ultimate question you have to ask your ex. On the other hand you also have to ask yourself the same question. There is no point in taking your ex back if you don’t love him/her. And it’s definitely a big no-no if you pretend to be in the game again but just really doing it for the sake of cold revenge. Sincerely ask yourselves how you truly feel for each other. It will only be a complete waste of time you don’t love each other anymore. But if your ex is asking for another chance and you can’t help but feel giddy again, although you’re a bit scared of the pain too, there is a big chance that you indeed love each other. Ask yourselves and measure up your ex’s sincerity through actions.

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